Maculate Conception - 09/11/01
By Bel Garion
Published each Tuesday
For the past five months, I have been in a deepening friendship with a man who is 5 years younger than I am. (I
am divorced, in my mid-20s.)
"Tony" and I have a wonderful time when we're together -- talking, walking, laughing, going to the movies,
watching football games, eating, reading -- just about everything. I have no doubt that if we were closer in age,
we would be talking about marriage. But that big an age difference, especially when the woman is the older one,
makes marriage hard to imagine.
I don't remember seeing anything about this in any of your commentaries, and I truly believe that you are a saint.
I'm hoping that some of your readers will have some insight for us, either positive or negative, based on some
Since you have been a reading my column for a while, I am surprised you asked what my readers think of you. They
read my commentaries, so they are obviously "free" thinkers. I asked my female friends who had married
younger men if they were glad they did. The vast majority said that not only did they divorce the men they married,
but that they now prefer the company of women to that of men. Of course, they couldn't be happier.
Granted, the age difference is a big one, but I wouldn't advise you to end the relationship based on that. There
are no guarantees in relationships. You could marry a man your age and be divorced within six months. The same
goes for Tony. More and more, age is becoming only a number in relationships. Unless Tony wants children, it sounds
as if you two are totally compatible, and that bodes well for the future. With that said, LEAVE THAT POOR BOY ALONE!!!